The Double Standard with Sex and Violence and Why I'm Okay with It

I don't like sex scenes in movies. I don't care for nudity, either. Call me prudish, but it comes off as gratuitous and unnecessary in a film. Violence, however, I can get behind. In fact, I enjoy certain types of violence. That will sound strange and even unsettling to many who will read this blog entry, but I'm choosing to be honest here. Maybe the word "enjoy" is misleading. It's probably better for me to say that I can be entertained with violence in a film while comfortably seeing it for what it is.

It's been seen said ad nauseum, especially in Hollywood, that it's easier to get excessive violence through the ratings board, whereas it's like pulling teeth to keep a sex scene without any cuts. There's an excellent documentary, This Film Is Not Yet Rated, that discusses this very thing. The director makes use of interviews and compares footage to make a case that the MPAA has a double standard. And it is double standard. Very much so. But I don't see that as a bad thing.

From infancy itself, we are exposed to violence. We experience pain and we know how it feels. When we hit someone, we're scolded for doing so. If our loved ones are harmed, we sympathize and have emotional distress from it. Barring mental and/or psychological problems, we conclude early on that violence is bad. As we get older, we recognize that the use of force can be necessary to prevent even worse acts of violence against others. Regardless, we can still see that violence is painful and to be avoided.

Sexuality is mostly presented at puberty. Before that, our experiences around it are pretty much limited to hugs and kissing. Then somewhere between fourth and sixth grade we're given sex education. It's awkward, uncomfortable, and often quite funny. We learn about our changing bodies and reproduction and all that good stuff. Most importantly, we learn that sex is enjoyable. When we walk out of that class, that is the deepest engrained fact; sex is good.

This is where the problem presents itself. It's true that sex is enjoyable, but it's not always good. It's not always to our benefit, though we often ignore the consequences and go through with it, anyway. Compare that to violence. Violence is painful and bad, but it can sometimes be of benefit in the long run. We hesitate to use violent ends because we know that there will always be painful consequences. There's frequently idiots who will eschew this common sense, but I'd hope that most people are capable of proper discernment.

I believe media contributes to our culture's short-sightedness with sexuality. Think of 10-20 movies that you've viewed that have a sex scene, however explicit or conservative it might be. After you've done that, think of how many of those movies take the time to explore any negative consequences that could or do come about. I'm talking about emotional or psychological turmoil, its effect on other characters outside of the act, STDs, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, etc. How about even the emotional depth of the act itself? I would wager that most of those 10-20 films don't even graze over these topics. If we're realistic, we know that a lot of sexual relationships (especially pre-marital and/or promiscuous ones) come with this sort of baggage.

There's a great quote from David Lynch where he said, "Sex is a doorway to something so powerful and mystical, but movies usually depict it in a completely flat way. Being explicit doesn't tap into the mystical aspect of it, either. In fact, that usually kills it because people don't want to see sex so much as they want to experience the emotions that go along with it. These things are hard to convey in film because sex is such a mystery." For someone who's never had that kind of intimacy, I'm certain that David Lynch hit the nail on the head. But our youth culture doesn't understand the emotion and can only see the physical pleasures of it. I believe that we all want it, but we aren't aware that it even exists.

Just so I can further prove my point, think of 10-20 movies with violent scenes. When you've done that, think of how many movies show characters mourning, reflecting, regretting, experiencing emotional or psychological distress, etc. Count the movies where a person is in pain or dies. Do you see what I'm saying? However explicit or mild, realistic or stylized, violence is honest in its appearance. Most audiences probably don't watch violence for the sake of violence. Porn has a far wider appeal than snuff films. When we watch a violent movie, it's because the bloodshed is a means to an end. It's violence that is used to prevent further, darker atrocities. It's good against evil.  

I'm not about to say that we don't have our share of problems with it. Every year it seems like there's conflicting studies about whether or not video games make children aggressive. Personally, I don't think it does. Not on any substantial level. If I'm wrong, however, shouldn't we be studying whether sexually explicit media increases promiscuity, teen pregnancy, divorce, or depression? Shouldn't this be brought into prominence too? I say yes.

-L. Travis  Hoffman

7/28/2015

Freedom of the Atheist vs. Freedom of the Christian

The idea of freedom is easily the greatest appeal of atheism. Intellectual freedom. Philosophical freedom. Freedom of lifestyle. Freedom from the guilt and restrictions provided by religion. If you don't want to use your money for charity, you don't have to. Marriage? Sure, if you want. Or you can have a great life of sex. There's no reason why you shouldn't. We're here to procreate; it's instinctual. And if you don't want a child or can't handle one, there's no reason why you can't get an abortion. This is about self-preservation. Again, it's necessary to rely on our biology. It knows us better than ourselves. So long as we aren't hurting anyone, nothing is wrong with holding an atheistic worldview. Society would run more smoothly if we allowed ourselves the freedom of naturalism.

Except that it wouldn't. The natural world can be a brutal place. Watch the Discovery Channel and you'll see it pretty quickly. When you realize that these animals are acting on instinct, things come into focus. Naturalism is able to explain how life works. In simplistic terms, organisms are what they are because of chemical reactions to stimuli. Everything is dictated by this. And that terrifies me.

An atheist, a true atheist, must subscribe to this view. Even Secular Humanism, which claims that humanity can be moral without spirituality, must concede to this fact. Atheism rejects God and the supernatural in favor of empiricism. The natural world is tangible and it can be tested and have proof. Because science is the study of nature and provides knowledge for these things, it becomes the highest form of truth.

However, in accepting naturalism there comes the necessity to yield what atheism values most: freedom. Choice no longer exists or, rather, it never did. Everything you are, everything you do, feel, and think is nothing more than chemical reactions to stimuli. Nothing is "wrong" or "right" because it's just things doing what they do. You're nothing more than a machine that's part of a machine and so on and so on. Nothing has value and, therefore, you have no value.

It's for this reason, first and foremost, that I'm not an atheist. A clockwork existence is a sad and pointless one. Critics of Christianity like to point at how we "suppress" rights and halt progress without realizing that we believe in an actual, non-illusory freedom.

I believe in the processes of how things work. It's undeniable. What differentiates me from the atheist is that I believe in transcendent ideas. I believe that actions and thoughts, sadness, hope, morality, love, and creativity are more than just chemicals. I believe that they are what God put in us. It's what separates us from all other life. It reveals our value and our individuality. It reveals God's love in creating us. And any true atheist that's intellectually honest with himself will recognize that he cannot believe in these things without a God in existence.

-L. Travis Hoffman

7/23/2015

"But Jesus Was God!"

Hebrews 4:15

"For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are -- yet he did not sin."

Every once in a while, you'll find yourself at a place in life where things just plain suck. Things that don't seem to be getting better. Inevitably for the Christian you will likely be met with the consolation that even Jesus went through rough times. Very rarely do I ever feel any sort of relief from that. In fact, it almost always irks me.

Jesus was God. I mean, he still is God but I'm speaking specifically to His life on Earth. At the same time, He was also fully man. As such, He felt the pains and temptations of sin that plague every one of us. But did He really? I find myself asking this question frequently. If Christ felt temptation to sin yet was still perfect and pure in nature, was there any real temptation to be had? He was aware of His own divinity. Wouldn't He also be aware that He would never succumb and, therefore, never needed to be concerned? This is where I get annoyed.

Until recently, it never occurred to me that my questions and frustrations are exactly what makes Christ so far beyond our understanding. The Bible says that He faced temptation and always conquered it and I believe this to be true. I've never given pause to think that I could be interpreting this verse incorrectly. For all the times I've stressed contextualizing scripture, I found myself falling to the same mistake that again and again I've had to address.

So what if Jesus faced temptation? That doesn't need to be the draw of Hebrews 4:15. The point is that "he did not sin". Picture a time in the past when there was something that you really wanted to do, agonizingly so, but knew that it was wrong and that, in your conviction, you would never do it. Now take that and apply it to Jesus with every single temptation in His life. Imagine the emotional and even physical toll that would take upon a man. An ever-increasing burden made worse with the knowledge that He would be taking all of mankind's sins with Him in the most horrible death imaginable. It's no wonder He was sweating blood.

I could very well be misinterpreting this verse. My knowledge of hermeneutics is limited, however much I find it enlightening. But I have little doubt that the conclusion I've made is consistent with the character of Christ. The value in that is something that has brought me comfort in a way that it never had before.

-L. Travis Hoffman

7/23/2015

What's Really Wrong with Abstinence Education

I don't care for the public school system as it exists today. For all the people that have graduated from high school, a good many don't seem to be very educated or lack common sense altogether. I blame the schools for this in many cases. Whether we're talking about illiteracy, an inadequate special education department, or lack of discipline, things don't seem to be improving. The thing that really bothers me, however, is how we handle sex education.

Remember the D.A.R.E. program? I recall in 6th grade that we had a police officer that would teach us about the dangers of illegal drug use and how they'd try to hook us. At the end of the last class, we had to deliver a speech (side note: I had a panic attack from nerves). Each of us then took an oath to not use drugs or be involved in gang activity. How many people do you know that actually kept that oath?

Let's consider the reasons for a moment. What did most of our speeches say as to why we'd choose to avoid drugs? Health risks and jail time, both of which center around self-interest. Once young adults are old enough to be offered drugs, they believe in their own invulnerability to addiction, bodily damage, and/or the law.

This same rule applies to abstinence programs. Teens can pledge to wait for sex all they want, but if their abstinence is to avoid a pregnancy or STDs then they can justify having sex by making sure to "be careful" with condoms and birth control. We can see how well that ends up working by the number of unplanned pregnancies among our fellow alumni, most of whom are unmarried.

What if we were to teach abstinence by placing importance not on ourselves, but rather our friends and loved ones? You want to know why I'm still a virgin? Because it would bring undeserved criticism on my parents. It would dishonor everything that they've taught me. Because it would put my family in a position where they would be obligated to help me. Whether by helping financially or providing living space or taking time out of their lives to pick up my slack because of a lack of personal responsibility. Because it doesn't honor God or His teachings. Because I wouldn't be emotionally prepared or mature enough to be the best father possible for my child. Because it would force my significant other to abandon her plans and aspirations. Because it might mean that my girlfriend would choose to get an abortion and I would have that death on my conscience.

We've become such a selfish culture that can't exercise restraint. We don't know how to think about the consequences of our actions. We want what we want and no one is going to convince us otherwise. Let's work on teaching students to have humility and selflessness before we bother expecting them to wait for marriage.

-L. Travis Hoffman

7/13/2015 

Keeping It To Yourself

Did you guys hear about the reactions to UFC fighter Yoel Romero's post-fight comments? Romero took time acknowledging the good Lord for bringing him success and stressing that the United States needs to do the same. Needless to say, it annoyed people. 

The president of the UFC, Dana White, expressed his disapproval. "The reality is this: You just won the biggest fight of your career, America doesn't want to hear your thoughts on Jesus. Keep that stuff at home; religion, politics, all that stuff. When you're out there fighting and you're being interviewed, they want to hear about the fight. It's awesome you love Jesus; love Jesus all you want. You just don't have to do it publicly."

This is yet another one of those instances where a person who is not of faith should refrain from teaching orthopraxy. Christians don't have to love Jesus publicly, Mr. White? Perhaps you should open a Bible and see what it has to say about it. 

Isaiah 62:6- "I have posted watchmen on your walls, Jerusalem; they will never be silent day or night. You who call on the LORD, give yourselves no rest."

Isaiah 40:9- "You who bring good news to Zion, go up on a high mountain. You who bring good news to Jerusalem, lift up your voice with a shout, lift it up, do not be afraid; say to the towns of Judah, 'Here is your God!'"

Psalm 119:46- "I will speak of your statutes before kings and will not be put to shame."

Matthew 5:14-16- "You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."

Acts 18:9- "One night the Lord spoke to Paul in a vision: 'Do not be afraid; keep on speaking, do not be silent.'"

I could go all day, Mr. White. There is no commandment that says, "Thou shalt keep thy religion to thyself." Christianity does not work that way! The Bible says that God desires all to be in heaven, not just the ones who would like to hear about Christ. We Christians have a personal relationship with Him, but not a private one. It was Christ's command to go and preach to every nation. You cannot practice the Religion while keeping it to yourself! That's not the way of the Christian. We're instructed to speak the truth in love, and that truth is that Jesus is Lord and Savior and that He is the only way to the Father's Kingdom. 

I'll end this with a quote from magician and devout atheist, Penn Jillette. 

"I don't respect people who don't proselytize. I don't respect that at all. If you believe that there is a Heaven and a Hell, and people could be going to Hell and you think it's not really worth telling them this because it would make it socially awkward, how much do you have to hate somebody to not proselytize? How much do you have to hate somebody to believe that everlasting life is possible and not tell them that? I mean, if I believed beyond a shadow of a doubt that a truck was coming at you and you didn't believe it, there's a certain point where I tackle you, and [everlasting life] is more important than that."